It saddens me to hear someone say that they have fallen out of love with their mate, and unfortunately it seems as if this has become a common excuse for divorce. As I reflect on 1 Corinthians 13:8, which tells us that Love never fails, I wonder how can this be a valid excuse for divorce. We have to remember that God is the only one who can use, and make good of, absolutes, so when God says never, he means never! So, why then are so many couples, "falling out of love"?
In order to understand verse 8, I went back up to the beginning of the chapter, where God defines to us what love he is referring to that will never fail. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." As I read these verses, all I could say was, "WOW!" It became clear to me why so many marriages failed and the spouses used the excuse of "not feeling in love anymore". The biblical concept of love, which is the one that will never fail, is not based on emotions, how we are feeling, but it is based on action and commitment. Divorce suggests that the two have given up, but God tells us that love is patient and it always perseveres. As wives, we have to be careful not to operate in a worldly mindset when it comes to love, but then expect biblical results. If our husbands wrong us in some way, we must be willing to let things go and forgive because the biblical way of love keeps no record of wrongs. If things aren't looking as we think they should, we must not lose hope, because biblical love always hopes. We must decrease the word, "I" in our vocabulary because biblical love is not self-seeking, does not boast, or is not proud. As a wife, the enemy had me blinded and focused on myself. I can recall saying (not just thinking), "Why do I have to always be the one to apologize?" or "I feel like I am a good wife, but my husband is doing nothing for me." When the enemy gets us thinking of ourselves and what we deserve, he has distracted.
W.I.F.E. Prayer always encourages women to strive to be pleasing to God. If we are promoting God's agenda, we can be confident in the promises of God such as, love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8); all things work together for our good (Romans 8:28); and we will reap what we sow (Galatians 6:7-8). Let's remember that if we are focused on pleasing God, we will always please our husbands. Let's make up in our minds to be wives who promote Real Love, which will always win!
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